Strateties for alpha male dating
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So my question is, what happens to all these alpha guys? Or is it possible for such an alpha guy to create a meaningful long-term relationship?
Pat is probably 75 years old and delightfully curmudgeonly.
” Pat asked me: “Are you a career man or a man with a career?
” (This is one of those aphorisms.) I told her that my career was not just a job, but kind of a calling. She told me that, as a career man, since my job would come first, I could get married and be perfectly content, but I’d always be longing for more. Allen’s contention, essentially, was that if you’re an alpha male, your natural tendency is to put your needs first, to conquer, to dominate, to spread your seed, and to hope to not break too many hearts along the way. And in this regard, I realized, I’m not a pure alpha male.
She lives in a very black and white world and has a bunch of catchy aphorisms that she trots out when she sees common dating dynamics – especially for women with an excess of masculine energy.
I turned to her because we’d met on a panel once before and because I respected her experience and wisdom.
I told her that I wasn’t sure that I felt what I was supposed to feel for the woman who I was considering proposing to.
I didn’t have that obsessive, breathless, “I must have you” sentiment.
So it’s not that it’s impossible to find one of these guys who wants to settle down with you – it’s that alpha males are inherently high risk/high reward.
And, from what I’ve seen as a dating coach, most women are willing to take the risk – but very few actually get the long-term reward.
This is really what my book Why He Disappeared is all about – being in your feminine energy – open, positive, receptive, nurturing.
Still, being the ideal woman for an alpha male isn’t always enough – not if the alpha male doesn’t have a strong moral code and doesn’t fundamentally value monogamy as much as he values conquering new women and new businesses.
She finally concluded that, based on my profile, I would probably cheat on my wife a few times. It’s more important to me to be a good husband and father than it is to pursue my selfish interests at all costs.