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Our true loyalties lie not with our new 'blended' family, but with our own biological children and the ex-partners from whom we were both amicably divorced.The important occasions in family life which I used to love - birthdays, Christmas and so on - are now difficult, trying times.
It was the death of my parents, within six months of each other in 2008, that was the catalyst for my change of heart.
Indeed, in many ways, divorce is given a more positive spin in our confused modern world than marriage is.
The drawbacks of divorce are believed to be mostly either financial - as if the splitting up of the spoils of a life together were the very worst part of the process - or the fallout experienced by the children.
As I looked at her sitting happy and radiant at the top table, laughing uproariously at her husband's far from funny jokes, I realised that, in a world that has horribly devalued the institution of marriage, she was reaping the benefits of putting the love and security of her family first, before any disagreements she might have with her husband in the rough and tumble of daily life.
Watching her united with her husband on such an emotional occasion reminded me sharply of exactly what I had lost - but had no idea I was losing - seven years ago, when I got divorced from my husband, the father of my three children, after 25 years together.
It's a scenario that will be familiar to many couples.
But how many of them choose to separate, and how many have the gumption to stick it out?The trouble is nobody tells you the truth about divorce.They tell you it's a 'difficult' experience, and it's generally accepted that the process sits somewhere near the top of the ten most stressful life events.This week, the Conservatives published a report commissioned by Iain Duncan Smith which proposed a three-month 'cooling off' period for couples considering divorce.But the idea that couples would be ready to rethink their break-up after such a short period is unrealistic.It is only now that I am experiencing something akin to the seven-year 'itch' of marriage; the seven-year 'ache' of divorce, a regular recurrence of the emotion I experienced at that recent wedding - a pang, a regret for what has gone for ever.